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Perception – Ain’t it a Bitch?

When a bell is struck, it vibrates and then in turn vibrates the air molecules around it. Waves of air molecules eventually hit one’s eardrum and vibrate the eardrum.

When we hear the sounding bell, we think and perceive the bell as “out there” but the sound is really “in here”. It’s the eardrums reaction to being hit by the vibrating air molecules.

Isn’t it interesting how we perceive not just sounds – but people, events, smells, sights and all sensations as originating “out there” when in fact they are inner experiences?

When the line of what’s “out there” and “in here” starts to blur for me it’s actually quite fascinating. We can change my perception of what’s out there if we want.

Here’s a fun example of how we all have different perceptions of the same “thing” out there. You may see from this that perception could just be an inner experience.

Today in the Aachen, Germany train station I could not help but notice a very attractive woman…long black hair, (looked freshly blown and straightened from the hair salon), silver hoop earrings, tight jeans, black boots and a coat with a big furry collar and to boot she had a gorgeous face. I even got a smile from her. Hey, what’s not to like?

On board the train, I was asked by a female conductor for my ticket. I looked up and – oh gosh, it was her! Huh?

She was an undercover cop, busting riders who thought they’d get away with a free ride on a regional train!

Aha! If they see an official conductor, that could alert freeloaders to run to the bathroom hideout. Luckily, I paid for a ticket and got a second chance to flirt.

Off in the distance I heard desperate arguments from riders (one teenage girl rider was almost in tears) followed by my favorite lady cop’s unwavering demands for 50 euro as a penalty.

Talk about a tough cookie! She was not taking no for an answer. Her job was to shake people down for money, and she was on the warpath!

In review – someone who boosted my ego and made me feel good today pretty much destroyed a few peoples days and caused them to be upset.

She was the same person all day, but depending on one’s perception, you either liked her or hated her.

Perception – ain’t it a bitch?

Do You Have New Years Resolutions? Consider This…

By Adam Rafferty 4 Comments

We all make New Year’s plans and resolutions – plans on how to “work hard” to “get what’s out there.” I’m offering you a different angle on that idea….

I recently picked up a copy of Deepak Chopra’s book “The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire” and just finished it on a plane ride to Europe. What’s not to like about a title like that?

“The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire” is an excellent book. Deepak is a dedicated meditator and I felt that the book pulled me into the peaceful, mystical, “boundless” place that he writes from. I am thankful to feel very chilled out right now. I needed that!

I admit, I sometimes fall prey to the state of “wanting more”, and I work every day at finding peace and gratitude for what I’ve got. I always come back to finding that my joy, peace and creativity comes from being spiritually centered.

“Wanting more” is in fact the cause of pain and restlessness itself. There is a cure though. Once we are thankful for what we have and enjoy a feeling of peace within, more comes rushing into our lives. That’s the irony!

I read something in the book that resonated with me, a message I much needed to hear as I gathered ideas about “achieving goals in 2012”, and I’d like to share it with you.

“Suppose a hunter in the Amazon rain forest is having difficulty finding game. If he goes to a Shaman, neither the hunter nor Shaman looks anywhere but within the hunter himself to solve the problem.”

“It never occurs to them to say something like ‘There’s no game out there’. ”

Happy New Year, and may all your good find you in 2012!

Passing Inspiration Forward

By Adam Rafferty 1 Comment

For a few years I have practiced outside my NYC apartment in the building hallway. I do this to get away from my laptop and also enjoy natural reverb!

Moments ago, I heard little guitar strings getting plucked outside my door by someone else.

I sensed that I was being summoned, so I opened my door to see who it was.

A little boy named Matthew (age 7) got a mini guitar for Christmas.

His family lives 2 apartments down the hall…he’d been inspired by hearing me play out there.

I asked him if he liked Michael Jackson, and his face lit up. “I love Michael Jackson!”

I asked them to wait one moment at my door. I came back out with a gift in hand. I handed him & his mom an “I REMEMBER MICHAEL” CD.

“WOW!!!”

As I gave inspiration to this little guy, I was reminded that this is what it’s REALLY all about – passing inspiration forward.

How to Sell Your Music Without Selling Your Soul – Part 1

By Adam Rafferty 4 Comments

(This is written especially for college level music students, young musicians considering a career in music and recent music conservatory grads…but also anyone else in the music or arts.)

Many musicians and artists treat “selling” like a nasty disgusting word. They feel that “selling” means “selling out” and I am here to say – that is not the case. I say – selling music is cool, hip and fun!

Selling is the very oldest profession in the world despite what you may have heard otherwise. It is very noble. Without a sale of some sort, nothing moves.

In all areas of life, whether it’s the invention of smartphones, computers, restaurants, movies, hardware, clothing, housing, toys, you name it – the sale of something is the essential fuel to keep all of it going.

The sales person is the link that makes it all possible so that creativity and innovation can in fact, continue.

So, if you want to be the best in your field, you will need to sell something and selling your music is the surest way for you to stay involved with your music.

Even J.S. Bach sold his musical skills. He had point by point contracts with the towns in which he lived, and constantly re-negotiated financial improvements to his current deals. He was a master composer and salesperson!

Like many musicians I used to think “I am not a salesperson, I am a musician and I shouldn’t have to do this crappy work!”

I’d then be very upset when I had to “sell” because there was a clash with my self concept (“I’m a musician”) and my actions (“I am selling, but I shouldn’t have to deal with selling.”).

I think that many musicians share this “glitch” in their mental-emotional wiring.

Most music schools don’t tell you the following, but should:

When you get out of school, the only way you will survive is by selling something, be it music or otherwise.
If you work at a music school as a teacher or office person you are selling your time and expertise.
If you work anywhere you are selling your time and skills.
If you play a gig you are selling your skills and providing the venue, promoter and audience with something valuable.
If you have a recording studio you are selling time, use of equipment and skills.
If you are not selling your music, then you may have to sell your soul because you will have to sell something.

So doesn’t it seem like the science and psychology of selling should be addressed? Funny that it’s not. It’s a taboo topic like porn or something.

School gives you the “what to sell” but not the “how to sell.” Your musical chops won’t sell themselves all the time.

Your words, dress appearance but most of all, your MIND – help you sell your musical skills, products and expertise. Getting good at selling means you don’t have to sell your soul and it insures that you can spend your future as a creative musician. That’s what Bach did!

Selling is a skill like any other. Pro sales people rehearse, strategize and think. Amateur sales people “wing it” and get spotty results.

If you are not interested in selling, I say get interested now, because either you’ll be selling your music or you’ll be selling something else….maybe your time working for someone else with a vision stronger than yours!

The main lesson here for you is to have the “shift” inside yourself to know that selling is ok, it’s noble, it’s necessary. This is the beginning of the “inner game”, which must occur before the outer game of “selling combat” can begin.

To pay your rent and eat – you will need to sell something. Tell me, what will you sell?

Silence

By Adam Rafferty 6 Comments

Good Morning Gang! It’s 5:24 am here in New York. I’ve been up since 3am….I turned in early last night. 2 cups of coffee later…and the sky is still black.

I’d like to share something very special to me with you today. I will tell you about one of my greatest loves in my life.

This is how I find my peace. Without this, my music would have no ground. It’s the secret of my success. It’s one of the most important things in my life.

Silence.

Like most people (maybe you), I experience ups and downs, moments of confusion. The noisy mind does this.

Often I want “more” – more love, money, control, attention, certainty in life – but with that comes stress. It’s all just mental noise. It’s “grabbing” instead of “having”.

So after thinking, stressing, losing myself in trying to figure it all out, trying to squeeze this poor little brain (inside the bobbing bald head) for “the answer” which never comes…I have to give up, because there is no answer.

But wait…something beautiful happens when I give up and sit still.

When I sit silently 30 minutes once (or twice) a day…

Answers come on their own, magically.

I feel my own “noise” for 20 minutes and then a “merging” with it all happens.

Past, present and future turn into one beautiful, cohesive “glow”.

I become “nothing” but it’s the most beautiful “nothing” there is.

I’m not “happy”, I just “am”.

Like a pond, the ripples on the water eventually slow down until the water looks like glass.

It’s natural.

It’s simple.

It’s amazing and beautiful.

[shhh….]